When you are adjusting to welcoming a new child into your home in Iowa after completing the process of adoption, you are now tasked with the tender process of forming a relationship with your new child. Helping your new family member to feel welcomed, validated, loved and important will require that you behave in such a way that he or she will learn to trust you. Once accomplished, healthy attachments will begin to form and your child will come to learn that you are committed to providing love and care for the foreseeable future.
Developing an attachment with someone you have never met will undoubtedly present its own challenges. Small children who are still highly impressionable and still learning about relationships may show hesitation in accepting your care. According to childwelfare.gov, if your child was previously exposed to environments where neglect, abuse and persistent tension were present, he or she may require a significant length of time in a stable and loving home environment before an attachment to you will begin to form.
One way that you can begin to form bonds of trust and attachment is to play with your child whenever you get the chance. When you are communicating with him or her, smile and make eye contact. Regularly verbalize your love for your child and your gratitude that he or she has become part of your family. Talk with your child about his or her roots and reaffirm the concerns and feelings that are shared with you.
The information in this article is intended for educational purposes only and should not be taken as legal advice.